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Originally Posted by Kylerobert
And 100% honesty right here: I wish my son won't be gay as well. I totally accept homosexuality but I would be scared of my son being ridiculed, picked on, etc. But if he is, I will support,protect, and accept him all the way.
So maybe your dad is going through that as well. All I know is that you need to chill, give your father time, and quit the teen agnst highschool drama because there are gonna be things worse then this down the road.
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yeah but 100% honest, if your son IS gay and you are scared for him then you need to man up and give him your support, because he's going to need it.
his dad basically said "in an ideal world, you would be a different person", and in doing that, he rejected his son. maybe he doesn't realize this, maybe that wasn't his intention, but that was the meaning of his words. and maybe he'll realize down the line the impact of what he said and make up for it.
in the meantime, i think it's only human to react emotionally to such a fundamental rejection by the people who are supposed to love you and take care of you. don't belittle his "teen angst", it's what he has to deal with right now, and it's stupid to suggest otherwise. he'll have to work things out with his dad as a part of growing up and becoming who he is. this is not some bullshit problem.
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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip
I only asked him because I thought he'd shut the fuck up and leave me alone. He kept bothering me, and I made it clear I wanted him to leave, but he wouldn't.I shouldn't be posting all my personal shitty stupid drama on line. This will be the last time, I swear.
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sorry for my part in this man. yes it's kinda risky to discuss personal matters with an anonymous interweb audience. but if you have to post this shit online maybe you don't have anybody else to talk about it, and the thing is, you need to have someone to talk about it with. competent friends, a support group, a counselor, whatever.
rather than beat yourself up for your temporary indiscretion, consider it a sign that you need to make some changes-- i.e. find some support for the issues you're struggling with. silence=death, etc. in any case, embarrassments aside, i hope venting did you some good (bottled up emotions are toxic), and that some of what you read here was somehow useful.