My life just destroyed itself [rant]
 

Who hasn't had something similar to that?

You really aren't necessarily being paranoid if your girlfriend seems excessively close to another guy. I've never had to put up with that in the age of text messaging, it must really suck with that thrown in.

If you are seeing a therapist, that's likely a very good thing. You are probably in for some rougher emotional times before it gets better, and it may well get better in ways you wouldn't pick right now if you could (and you really never can).

Try to remember that your life has much more to it and much more of worth than a single relationship. I know I've lost sight of that in a big way in the past (and ended up needing professional help as well), but it is something that can be overcome.

Do a barrel roll

Uhh... I'd be worried about the dude.

That's a sticky situation. I'll just say I've had the twitching/shaking thing over a very similar situation. And I made the WRONG move, which was getting pissed off, breaking up, making her jealous, lying about it and then pretending that I didn't give a fuck. My arm still twitches when I think about it some times.

I don't have any advice for you except don't do what I did.

Would you say that your life has been flipped, turned upside down?

Should I take a minute and sit right here?

would either of you gentlemen happen to have batte toads?

Unfortunately I am currently happy with my bachelor status so I feel like Jay-Z about all this.

Shit, just listening to one of the new Jay-Z tracks as I read this. Solitude is often beauty. Much more freedom

wut?

i'm not sure on the shipping from the uk, but seems like a good deal

You don't value solidarity? I do. My personal happiness is not the end all be all.

Which is to say that I can be happy with my bachelor status but still be unhappy in a lot of other ways (i.e. showing solidarity with a comrade in hard times).

I understood what you meant. But I was pointing out that it is contradictory to say "Unfortunately I am happy" I thought it was funny.........................



..............but I have no sense of humor.

this thread is not baller

yeah dude, life is too short to let a woman get you down.


besides, schizo and tc have professed love for you, just take a trip down to sunny florida, videotape it, and send/text that to yr chick and see if she stops texting her brofriend

Yeah, Gosh, What About Me!?!?

:(

if its meant to be its meant to be and things will work out.. it is possible for 2 peole of different sexes to be very close in a friendship way, not everyone jumps on everyone after a conversation yknow......

seriously, i hope it works out. i had the same problem a while back, about 15 years ago with my girlfriend...she is now my wife of almiost 9 years so things will work out fine...

I usually seem to find more in common with males than females, so I always made friends with guys, and I never thought much of it back then. I honestly did not see the difference between girls and boys, as far as friendship went. Lots of girls are the same way.


Being cautious is certainly a good thing, though.

How close are you with her? Does she have lots of other friends, or is it normally just the two of you?

I think you're mixing two specific things there. The depression comes across like it isn't caused by your girlfirend getting close to something else, therefore the anxiety that this causes is having more serious repercussions on other aspects of your own life, hence the amplified downer. Perhaps it's a warning sign that you need to deal with your whole view of what relationships are made of when they are going to work out for the best, one aspects of which is being prepared to cope with things that you had imagined could not be possible when you're in one.

I have the exact situation going on right now. I know it's probably nothing but still I get suspicious over it constantly and it's really driving me cray.

I don't know if I'm overreacting or not but still I can't help it feeling this way.

sounds like your primal instinct to be a manimal and punch the guy in the face is being intellectualized and the face punching energy is being redirected into serotonin fizzle fry. the healthiest course of action would be to engage in severe physical exercise and start signing up for karate tournaments.
or punch the guy in the face. with your words.

People in relationships shouldn't be allowed to have close friends of the opposite sex.

best way to get back at 1 chick?

2 chicks.

the point isn't about permission. she's texting her friend on a phone while in the middle of a conversation? that's called rude.

i agree, its mostly just rude.


this is kind of turning into a prude thread again... and i thought i was the conservative of the board... but i don't see what the problem is with a SO having close friends of the opposite sex.

all my friends except for like 2 are females. so if i ever have a girlfriend again, there is no way that i wont have friends of the opposite sex. my best friend is a girl.
inhuman, i wouldnt beat yourself up about it. i think even when in a serious relationship your partner needs other people to talk to. but there should still be some boundries

Your girlfriend is a part of your life, not everything. Don't be afraid of change. Relationships are complicated. It's ok to feel upset.
Taking antidepressives can ease your feelings, but remember it's just drugs and building a shield (feeling numb instead of sad or angry) will not solve anything. Open up to your psychiatrist before starting a med plan. His or her reputation doesn't mean he/she will understand what you're going through right away and it takes time to build confidence.
If you've been smoking too much marijuana paranoia could be the effect.
Anyway, good luck. I think I've felt like you before (depression after a break-up, psychiatrists, feeling crazy, etc) so I speak from my experience.
It's not so bad. Cheer up!

get a spare chick is this one runs away.

alternatively (and by that, i mean, SERIOUSLY), have you seen this guy? have you hang out with him? if not, tell your girlfriend that you three should go see a movie or something; if she doesn't want to and doesn't give you a reasonable excuse, then heads up, if she's cool with that, then you're clear.

^^ If she aggrees to the movie...does he take her? If the three go out to a movie, isn't that weird?

^ Righteous idea. The old forced third-wheel will let you see 99% of their relationship. Honestly, how he acts as the third wheel will tell you everything.

plus, if the guy is cool with being a friend, at least he has to be tolerant to the boyfriend. best case scenario, he ends up being a friend of both.

Precisely. And if he's awkward and standoffish all night, let the speculation being.

cellulite, blood, makeup caked acne scarred pothole skin, etc.

grow a bitchin porno stache before you go to this movie. this will establish dominance early on.

That MAY work. But I've known at least one girl who loved to go out with both guys she was stringing out as if they were all one happy family. The guys of course hated it, but pretended otherwise. Seems pretty miserable to me.

sure, i know that, but a) most of the time when that happens, dead air, both guys are oblivious to the circumstances, which is not the case here, at least for our hero inhuman and b) it's just this one time to test the waters, see how the guy acts around her and him. if, like you say, the girl enjoys herself more than the boys then something is going on, definitely.

he tells you that he's feeling depressed about it, and you tell him that he should get a spare girl? are you being 'ironic' or what?

it was a jokey, porky.

employ caution and abandon paranoia.


you did say though that 'every time I go away'

have you thought that maybe she got the new friend because every time you went away she got lonely, and this new friend is solving that problem for her?

is part of yr paranoia, guilt at the fact that this dude is around for her when you are not?

just askin.. since I know I get pretty bored and lonely when my partner goes on long trips, so I can see it from that perspective.


Its possible that there is more going on, and its also possible that he's just a friend. Talking about it + hoping for honesty are the only things that will really leave you feeling any better.

i think youre cheating on her and this is your way to cloak your guilt from yourself and her.

nah, just kidding, pal.

paranoia solves nothing and in most cases causes you to become irrational and actually create a problem when there isn't one