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I came out to my parents finally.

Well done! How did they react?

It went well. They said that they still loved me, blah blah blah...

But they were very confused about the whole thing. When I said "that I tried not to be gay" (or something like that) my dad said "You tried not to be flamboyant?" My mom thought I was too young to know. And I guess I have to agree with her to some extent. I am always questioning myself because I haven't fully accepted it yet. I think telling my parents is a step in the right direction of acceptance though. How am I supposed to accpet it if I have the dread of coming out of the closet on my mind?

It went well, but it was awkward. I know my mom is more or less dissappointed, but she is a good enough of a mother to tell me that she still loved me, and all that jazz.

Hey, that's cool. Most parents will think that any deviation from the norm by their chld is just an aberration, but what marks out their worth is whether they allow the child the space to find for themselves whether that is the case, or try to force the norm upon them with threats. Your parents are a bit unsure of how to respond, but they've not judged you. Good on 'em.

Hey man well done. Jesus, I'm only 6 months younger than you. I never got why parents couldn't accept it.

Bravo Alex.
It's a good thing you said it cause the longer you wait the harder it would have been to tell them.

great, it must have been scary.

congrats! i hope that everything between you and your folks stays positive.

Congrats, I could never tell my parent's not until I can really live on my own.

well done Alex, i'm proud of you man,

well done! glad that it went ok.

because it means no grandchildren

I got two sisters. One of them who shouldn't have a problem getting a guy (or at least getting pregnant), the other is only six.

So how does it feel to wake up, and everyoe knows your gay (i.e. family friends blah blah blah).

must be a huge weight off yr mind! congratulations!

ah, pinche alex, congrats! that took a lot of huevos.

they sound like good decent people. maybe it's hard to get into their heads but the fact that you have their support is very cool of them. awesome.

dont worry about your mom, she'll get overherself :D

Strange. It hasn't quite hit me yet.

And not everyone knows.

You should buy a T-shirt that says:"Proud to be GAY!"

No thanks...

'I'm sort of unsure about it but I guess I should tell you I'm not entirely excited that I'm GAY!' won't fit on a t-shirt.

But yes, Bravo!

I have two gay uncles and from what they've told me (one of them, anyway), coming out is really scary. I think it should be all smooth-ish sailing from hereon, though. :]

Hats off Homosexual

That just calls for a gay bashing.

Good for you, man.

Right on, bro. Start being ridiculously obnoxious, and yr most of the gays in Sudbury!!!

So how long should I wait before bringing it up again? I'm sure they are thinking about it everyday, but they are acting like it never happened.

I have no idea, just bring in your boyfriend, or say you are going out on a date with a guy from school

Don't have a boyfriend...:(

Doesn't your school have one of those gay clubs. go there. But then again those might be the stereotypical queer.

Yeah, there is a meeting tomorrow I think...

I don't know if I want to go though...

no need to get pushy i think, they might be in denial or maybe they are just trying to support you by not making a big deal out of it. just go along with your life and the next time the opportunity presents itself (like if your mom sez "hey alex, look at that mamacita, why dont you ask her out") then you remind her. :D

this could be alot of back & forth, but eventually you'll win, so my advice would be relax & get on with your life; the hardest part is probably over.

now if you wanna have a heart to heart w/ the parental units about how they've taken the news, maybe have one separately with each. "hey dad, can we talk...?" "sure dude..." etc.

parents have a way to react as a team sometimes that alienates them from their individual mind. my dad, for example, is a very relaxed dude, but with my mom around, he fell into this "authoritarian dad role" while we were growing up. i think he did this as a reaction to my mom's anxieties, to protect her somehow.

anyway, best wishes man.

Alex listen to him. He seems to be the one of the few who are wise.

Congradulations, man.

How do you know you're really gay... you're only 16?

How did you know you where straight at sixteen. That is such a stupid comment.

how could he NOT know?

i was first in love with a girl when i was 3

at 13 my hormones were exploding and i was going nuts for all these girls, wow, and we trafficked in porn in school. i jerked off daily to pictures of tits.

at 15 i was so desperate for a woman i asked my friends to take me to the *cough* "ladies of the night". (this was in another country)

you don't think at 16 your hormones have fully taken possession of your brain, and you know what you want? can't you tell if you like the smell of a girl of the sweat of a dude?

it's all in the nose man, it's all in the nose.

it's like saying you gotta be 25 to know if you really like chocolate cake.

now i really gotta go but i dropped in just to say that.

You put that much better than I could have...

I was just asking a question, not making a comment, why are you taking so much offense?

The person who made this thread said himself: "And I guess I have to agree with her to some extent. I am always questioning myself because I haven't fully accepted it yet."

It's not like I said "were you sexually abused as a child?"

I've just noticed an ever-increasing trend amongst teenagers toward bisexuality, and I think it's entirely socially engendered. Kids are exposed to so much junk media like television, and even network TV is rife with gay innuendo that did not exist 15 years ago. Girl-on-girl action is wayyy more acceptable socially than it was when I was in high school in the 90's.

For instance: NIRVANA's first appearance on SNL in January 1992- Cobain french-kissed Novoselic on live TV, but the station cut this from future airings and called the whole cast back to re-film the end credits for repeat broadcasts. Nowadays, every single skit of SNL is filled with gay jokes. How far we've come in 15 years...

I'm not gonna sit here and say he ISN'T gay, I'm just curious how he knows.

I have no problem with people doing whatever they want to do sexually, but I also think the mainstream media is a terrible and SUBLIMINAL influence on impressionable minds. At 16, you're hardly an adult. Sure, I was into girls at that age, but maybe I just hadn't met the right guy (and still haven't)?

that's like saying "how do you know you're not gay if you've never tried it?"

"how do you know you don't like eating shards of glass if you've never tried it?"

sometimes you just know.

That's a load of bullshit. The media has a lot of gay jokes yes, but they mostly ridicule them. And why girl-on-girl action is better, because the media knows it will excite straight homophobic men.

By that I meant I was still clinging to hope that I may have been straight. I wasn't doubting my sexuality. I ask that question as a feeble attempt of comforting myself that it is a possibility that I am still straight. But I definitely consider myself to be gay.

I can't tell you how I know. It is just an innate thing. I wasn't interested in guys or girls until 7th grade, and WHAM! I was attracted to guys.