Well yeah, if it were happening for like a week or something I wouldn't break up with him, but from what you said it's been going on for a while, and you've tried to deal with the situation but are getting no results, hence my post.

two girls i know have had this problem, the first one's boyfriend stopped having sex with her because he wanted to break up but didn't have the balls to come out and say it and it ended with her eventually getting dumped, the second one her boyfriend just became too comfortable in the relationship and he got complacent, she resolved the situation by trying to initiate sex with him and then bursting out in tears when he wasn't responsive, they are now engaged and sex is back to how it should be

ermm, Im pretty sure he doesn't want to break up with me

and I dont really feel that breaking out in tears in order to manipulate sex response is for me.

but, thankyou

it's frustrating, but not frustrating enough to make me not love him anymore. :P

yeah but you can love someone and be attached to them without being in love with them. for example i will always love my boyfriend but if i was not also in love with him we would be done.

Actually, no. I figured my comment was pretty innocuous in how self-evidently obligatory the sentiment was. You could have simply explained that the problem had progressed past the luxury of privacy.

Instead, you've opted for the typical SYG passive-aggression of devaluing my comments as predictable attention-seeking.

Satan has big points.

well, that's curious. i don't feel i'm in love with my lady anymore, but I know I truly love her and want to spend my life with her.

yeah but if there's no passion or spark or anything what is it other than a very close friendship? part of the reason we've lasted this long is because we want to fuck each other 24/7.

this thread isn't about how much I love my other half. It's just about sex.

I think it's natural for relationships to change over time, and I think if you dump every relationship you have as soon as you don't want to unf them 24/7 yr going to have a lot of relationships. Which might suit you fine, but I dont think its necessarily a reason to dump someone. But that is my opinion.

Having said that, if I COULD unf the boyshape 24/7, I would. But not donig so does not make me want to break up with him. It makes me want to fix it.

this is true, and it's not a good reason to break up on its own, every relationship has good times and bad times but if you both really want it to work bad enough you can get through it. this is where LOVE (not in love) plays a part.

If it makes you feel any better: my boyfriend and I have only met once and our sex life consists of very occasional phone sex.

phone sex is awesome

well i don't think she was being manipulative, more just frustrated and unhappy

There is passion, a shitload of it. The sex is still awesome after the years. I'm just not in love anymore, you know, butterflies in stomach and shit.

...
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With a man, explaining why he's so into the cock and turned off by you.

that's why I added "butterflies in stomach and shit"
you know, that feeling.

Are you always such a conceited twat? Just asking.

fried pupas, you mean? i've never had those.

what about one a year and seven months younger?

are you also blue with white skinnyjeans, white trainers, and a white beret?

Yes. Yes I am.

good! you're obviously more adult than i am.
how about this:

shut up.

check yr panty drawer. there's shit missin'.

I got it! Just don't wear clothes in yer place anymore.

1. WTF? You have got to be one of the hottest chicks on the board.
2. Is this thread in any way connected to the How Do You Smell thread?
3. Three words for this wanker: SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP.

have sex before yr man gets too tired for the night.

He sounds like a dickwad.


Go away, you're being stupid and annoying.


See, that's one of the problems with modern American marriage. You will never have a passionate spark for someone for 40 or 50 years, not the same way you do when you're first together, but it's the friendship and loyalty that makes a relationship last into unimaginable lengths of time. And it's much more meaningful and powerful, just in a different way. Your spark is going to fade gradually. That's just the way it is. Hopefully there will be a smoldering ember to keep your relationship going if it's important to you.


Yeah, true

No, I'm just trapped by the assumption that I always am.

My original comment really wasn't as malicious as it has been assumed to be. And what conceit? There is no implicit assumption that I am correct.

I really am trying to without being assumed that I'm a conceited twat.

Dump him for me

Whatever.

Hope you get your sex life back, Phoenix.

For a lot of men the old fella's been their best friend for an awfully long time. Giving him a little tickle before kipping isn't necessarily the same thing as playing hide-the-bald-guy. I think that an awful lot of ladies see self-pleasure as a selfish waste of sexual energy, while a lot of fellas see it as fair game.

I think half of the time, the problem with sexuality in total is that all sides make assumptions about the other's sexual identity, often based on half-perceptions that aren't necessarily true. Additionally, I'm pretty confident that absolute transparency of sexual identity robs it of its cloistered nature, which is to say, there is very little more boring in this world than 'sexually liberated' people who talk about sex all the time - in much the same way as I think about sex more than I do my bike, and stories about my bike are very dull indeed because it's my bike and you're not riding it every day.

Hmm. That bike/ sexual thoughts simile is well iffy, I thought that was going to be internet gold.

I've read that sniffing bike seats is very popular in england. is this true?

not sure but i knew someone who when on an empty train with his bike had some guy jizz all over his seat. not because he wanted him too you understand. the guy was arrested at the next stop.

OK, I try not to talk much online about my sex life, but I can say this:
I've been with my wife longer than you've been on this planet, and we are still totally hot for each other and the physical passion and compatibility that we have today is even stronger than it was when we were teenagers. It;s pretty amazing, if you want to know the truth, and not infrequent. It can happen. If you are well-matched, these things tend to grow and get better with time as you evolve as people, just as a lot of other aspects of your life together will grow and evolve. It's a matter of true compatibility. I got lucky.